Like many newlyweds, we had a crystal-clear vision of our happily-ever-after. The house, the kids, madly in love… forever. We knew exactly what we wanted… so we thought.
Our lives together were pretty routine until that life-altering event of becoming a parent. Woah!! Our marriage was NOT PREPARED for this. Our relationship was abruptly deprioritized. We showered this baby with love, but the needs of our marriage were largely ignored. Few dates, little time for each other, and just enough mental space to keep the household in order. This sure wasn’t what we had in mind.
Our solution = HAVE ANOTHER BABY!
WAIT, WHAT?!?! Yes, you read that right. While our marriage was flailing like a fish out of water we brought our second daughter into the world. We quickly found ourselves without intimacy, disconnected, fighting, irritated, not aligned, and a lack of direction for our marriage and family.
Was this the marriage we wanted for ourselves, our daughters? Was this what we wanted their model of marriage to be like?
Within 2 years of our second daughter’s birth, we were having the conversation we NEVER thought would happen.
DIVORCE. The paperwork, who’s moving, who gets what, which pet goes where, telling the kids… it was very real.
However, after some tough love and wise counsel of friends, we drew a line in the sand and decided we were not going to give up.
This time, we weren’t going to just FIX our problems, we made a commitment to do whatever it took to build the BEST MARRIAGE WE POSSIBLY COULD!
We created a clear vision for our ideal relationship together. We created a plan. We took massive action. We communicated. We consistently checked in with each other. We rebuilt ourselves. We ironed out our Partnership Roles. We reconnected and deepened our Friendship. We established new territory as Lovers.
WE RELENTLESSLY PURSUED THE VISION WE CREATED FOR OUR MARRIAGE AND FOR OUR FAMILY… TOGETHER.
Now, we are MORE IN LOVE and HAVE MORE FUN than we ever thought possible and instead of dragging our daughters through a divorce we get to show them that DEEP CONNECTION and HAPPINESS IS POSSIBLE in marriage.
We are CREATING A LEGENDARY RELATIONSHIP… WITH KIDS.
WE KNOW YOU CAN, TOO!